So what do you do for a living?
This is the question I dread being asked the most. I used to answer, “I’m a stay-at-home mom,” (SAHM), to which the reactions have ranged from a slow confused nod, to a fleeting expression of distaste.
I stopped responding “stay-at-home mom,” and instead say, “I’m at home with my kids.”
The responses range from “Oh, that’s nice…” (patronizing yet understanding nothing)
To perplexed: “So…what do you do all day?”
To: “You’re so lucky! I wish I could sit at home instead of going to work every day!”
The emotions I feel are mixed— exasperation that they have no clue that it is work, to a kind of unhappiness and frustration, in that no matter how much I explain it, it really takes one to know one.
Let’s compare a typical day as a SAHM to how it might translate in an office setting: