You’ve seen her in line in front of you at the supermarket. You’ve seen her texting away while her child hangs from the monkey bars at the park. You may have even seen her wearing yoga pants and pushing a stroller down the sidewalk or loading bags into her car.
She’s a mom, and you want to date her.
Okay, let’s back the heck up.
Why do you need to mom-date?
Wait, what is mom-dating anyway?
So what do you do for a living?
This is the question I dread being asked the most. I used to answer, “I’m a stay-at-home mom,” (SAHM), to which the reactions have ranged from a slow confused nod, to a fleeting expression of distaste.
I stopped responding “stay-at-home mom,” and instead say, “I’m at home with my kids.”
The responses range from “Oh, that’s nice…” (patronizing yet understanding nothing)
To perplexed: “So…what do you do all day?”
To: “You’re so lucky! I wish I could sit at home instead of going to work every day!”
The emotions I feel are mixed— exasperation that they have no clue that it is work, to a kind of unhappiness and frustration, in that no matter how much I explain it, it really takes one to know one.
Let’s compare a typical day as a SAHM to how it might translate in an office setting: