Is it just me or does it seem like kids listen and obey something you ask of them only when you turn into a snarling beast?
I want to be a fun mom. Not only a fun mom, of course, since discipline also has a place in responsible child-rearing. But I wish I could be pleasant with them most of the time.
There’s already so many things in life to worry about, get frustrated about, and to be angry about.
I wish time spent with my kids could be always be a stress-reliever. We definitely have our moments of silliness, of giggles, and of hugs. At those times, I feel lucky to be a mom—their mom.
But so many other times, amidst rising blood pressure, soaring impatience, and a river of tears, Fun Mom makes her escape and Angry Mom takes over.
She yells, pleads, fumes, and breathes fire. She is done being nice, and needs things done RIGHT. NOW.
And you know what?
They listen. They finally get it.
Angry Mom has to reach her limit sometimes before any action is taken by the kids.
Toys are hastily returned to their boxes, the last bits of food are scraped from plates, little feet scramble quickly down from dangerous heights, all while Angry Mom heaves and tries to catch her breath.
Then, when the little ones are finally down for their nap, Angry Mom slinks away, to be replaced once again by Fun Mom. She looks around, feeling exhausted and regretful.
She thinks of the kids and how she would like to read them a story.
But they are already in their beds, fast asleep.
How do you keep your temper when your kids cross the line?
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