I have a confession to make: my 4-month-old daughter Peanut sleeps through the night.
As in 10 hours.
She has done so for the past month now.
Phew! That feels so much better!
But, strangely enough, I haven’t yet admitted this to any of my mommy friends. Why? Have I done something wrong? Should I feel ashamed?
BUT, STRANGELY ENOUGH, I HAVEN’T YET ADMITTED THIS TO ANY OF MY MOMMY FRIENDS. WHY? HAVE I DONE SOMETHING WRONG? SHOULD I FEEL ASHAMED?
Part of me feels bad for the moms who are still struggling with their children’s sleep issues for months, or even into their kid’s second year. I don’t want them to feel worse by trumpeting my “success.”
Not that there is anything I feel I am doing special or different to get good results. Believe me, if I had the answers, I would be writing post after post about them.
If I could say anything, I would recommend a strict, regular bedtime in a semi-dark room with some white noise, and let her self-soothe whenever possible. I suppose every child is different, and it took some time before my eldest, Pumpkin, would take to any of these methods.
Oh, and I can’t say enough about nursing. I know it’s not possible for every mom, and especially challenging for working mothers, but if you can do it, go for it! It’s known that formula-fed babies typically do sleep longer because they feel fuller, but maybe there is something else in breast milk that promotes sleep, or something related to the bond between mother and baby during the nursing process. I promise this is not a sermon on the virtues of breastfeeding, but it does go a long way.
WHENEVER MY MOMMY FRIENDS AND I DISCUSS OUR KIDS, THE TOPIC OF SLEEP WILL INEVITABLY COME UP. THIS IS WHERE I SQUIRM, THEN PUT ON MY GAME FACE.
Whenever my mommy friends and I discuss our kids, the topic of sleep will inevitably come up. This is where I squirm, then put on my game face. I wait while they finish their narrative on How Many Times Baby Woke Up, and nod my head sympathetically.
I do feel for these mothers, and they truly are warriors for going through these hurdles of parenthood.
When the conversation turns to my kids, I am humble, and say They’re Doing Well, It’s Not Too Bad. Then I gently change the subject.
I don’t want to start preaching to them, because no matter how honorable my intentions are, it seems like some moms would take my advice as some sort of criticism of their methods, which it’s not.
If they ask, I’m more than happy to help unravel the mystery that is our children. Maybe others might even be a little envious that things seem to be a little “easier” for me.
Everything won’t be easy for everyone; every kid is different and there’s always a trade off. I think it’s important that we network and share back and forth what works for us, and what could be better. It takes a village to raise a child, right?